Let’s face it – rejection pretty much always hurts. I applied for a job recently that I didn’t even want. Big surprise – I didn’t get it. (Can’t imagine why….)
It still hurt! Even though I didn’t want it. Maybe especially because I didn’t want it.
The reality is I often go for things I don’t want so that I can fill a whole that I don’t know how to fill.
It’s that void thing I talk about all of the time.
Searching for meaning, purpose, etc.
I often think affirmation will fill that void so I do things to please others or try for things I don’t really want, hoping I’ll get that little bit of affirmation.
If affirmation filled the void, then I think mine would be full. I do have people who love me and affirm me. I try to affirm myself.
Why haven’t I learned that people pleasing and even self-affirming don’t fill the void? Why do I keep completing the same types of circles in my life? When will I learn?
I’m probably being too hard on myself. Sigh.
There is a part of me that says The Void isn’t meant to be filled by anything other than God. That is the way I was raised. Unfortunately, in years of seeking God, I still have this emptiness.
I suppose maybe it is because I have bi-polar disorder, but I know other people who feel the void too – and they don’t have bipolar disorder.
What is the void, this emptiness?
Maybe its just humanity.